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Stop Picking the Wrong Partner: 7 Scientifically Proven Dating Hacks

Dr. Arthur Brooks (Subscribed)

Summary

Are you tired of dating the wrong people? This insightful guide reveals seven scientifically validated strategies to improve your love life and break negative patterns. First, do the work and trust your own judgment instead of caring about what others think. Don't fall in love too quickly; recognize if you have a tendency for infatuation and set healthy boundaries to pace your relationships. Expand your time horizon for relationships, as shorter timelines are scientifically linked to attracting individuals with psychopathic or sadistic traits. Focus on qualities like faithfulness and kindness, rather than just physical attractiveness and status, which are often displayed by those with darker personality traits. Crucially, go where the good people are. Research suggests looking in places like houses of worship, libraries, or voluntary organizations, which are less overtly sexualized and more conducive to meeting people with lighter personality characteristics. Avoid places like bars and clubs if you're seeking a long-term partner. Next, stop looking for your ex or someone exactly like them; this often repeats past mistakes. Instead, employ the 'opposite signal strategy' by consciously choosing differently from what your patterns dictate. Finally, stop romanticizing doomed love as seen in Hollywood or country songs. True, lasting relationships are built on deep values compatibility, friendship, and passion that functions and improves over time. The full discussion offers valuable insights into understanding yourself and making better choices, making it well worth your time to watch.

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